1.”The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one” Elbert Hubbard
2.” Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.” Mohandas Gandhi
3.”The important work of moving the world forward does not wait to be done by perfect men.” Gworge Eliot
4.”If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate.” Thomas Waston Sr.
5.Perfectionism is an incapacitating fear of failure that permeates our lives, especially those areas that we care about most.
6.Overcoming Perfectionism
- Awareness
- Active Acceptance
- Behavior changes attitude
- Meditation and visualization
- Setting a liberating goal or vison
- The platinum rule
- Helping others?
- ” Nature to be commanded must be obeyed.” Francis Bacon
7.”Knowing what you are doing while you are doing it is the essence of mindfulness training” Jon Kabat-zinn
8. ”If I had to limit my advice on healthier living to just one tip,it would be simply to learn how to breathe correctly.” Andrew Weil
9.”There are few stronger predictions of happiness than a close,nuturing, equitable, intimate, lifelong companionship with one’s best friend.” David myers
10.”An intimate physical-spiritual-emotional attacment between two people; a deep frendship with a passion.”
11.”Accentuate the positive; don’t eliminate the negative” (Gottman, 2000)
12.”I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Mark Twain
13.”The heart has its reasons of which reason knows not.” Blasise Pascal
14.”In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don’t just “get along” –they also support each other’s hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.” John Gottman
15.”When you must repremand your child, do so in a loving manner. Don’t every try to degrade or bumiliate him. His ego is a precious thing worth preserving. Try saying: I love you very much but I will not have the kind of behavior. Do you know why I won’t tolerate that? Simply because you are too bright to behave that way.” Marva Collins
16.”Do not do unto those close to you what you would not have done unto others (Who’re not so close to you).”
17.”At the heart of my program is the simple truth that happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other’s company. These couples tend to know each other intimately–They are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams. They have an abiding regard for each other and express this fondness not just in the big ways. but in little ways day in and day out.” John Gottman
18.”The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would not otherwise have occurred.” W.H.Murray
19.”Courage is not about having fear; it is about having fear and going ahead anyway.”
20.Definition “Self-esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and as worthy of happiness.” Nathaniel Branden’
21.Of all the judgments we pass in our lives, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves. –Nathaniel Branden
22.The greatest evil that can befall man is that he should come to think ill of himself. —Goethe
23.The case of relationships ” Differentiation is your ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally adn/or physically close to others –especially as they become increasingly important to you. Differentiation permits you to maintain your own course when lovers, friends, and family pressure you to agree and conform. Well-differentiated people can agree without feeling like they’re “losing themselves.” and can disagree without feeling alienated and embittered” David Schnarch (1997)
24.”It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; It is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude” Ralph Waldo Emerson
